Before we discuss loving and loving absolutely, let us separate the thorns from the roses, lest they would prick us and make us uncomfortable in our bed of roses..
Conceit and deceit have done more collateral damage to loving relationships than politics and poverty.
Being honest and being yourself will save you from a lot of headaches and heartaches for the unpleasant consequences of being fake and being swayed by wish washy vanities of useless egos.
What is the use of pretending to be what or who you are not?
Be yourself and let people take you as you are or go away!
Just tell them, "Love me or leave me".
I have heard and read countless words of promises of boys (especially the small boys among us here) and men swearing to high heavens on how they love a girlfriend or wife.
But these same boys and men sooner or later turn around to cheat on her with other girls and women.
"I hate cheating and lying! Hiss"
The same person swearing this is the same person who is soon caught lying and cheating. grin
"I love you more than any other girl in the world." shocked
The same guy saying this sooner or later will be cursing and swearing at her and could even do worse and go chasing other loose skirts on the street.
Do you know what is love?
Why is God so jealous of Israel?
God’s Love for Israel
11 “When Israel was a child, I loved him,
and out of Egypt I called my son.
2 But the more they were called,
the more they went away from me.[a]
They sacrificed to the Baals
and they burned incense to images.
3 It was I who taught Ephraim to walk,
taking them by the arms;
but they did not realize
it was I who healed them.
4 I led them with cords of human kindness,
with ties of love.
To them I was like one who lifts
a little child to the cheek,
and I bent down to feed them.
5 “Will they not return to Egypt
and will not Assyria rule over them
because they refuse to repent?
6 A sword will flash in their cities;
it will devour their false prophets
and put an end to their plans.
7 My people are determined to turn from me.
Even though they call me God Most High,
I will by no means exalt them.
8 “How can I give you up, Ephraim?
How can I hand you over, Israel?
How can I treat you like Admah?
How can I make you like Zeboyim?
My heart is changed within me;
all my compassion is excited.
9 I will not carry out my fierce anger,
nor will I devastate Ephraim again.
For I am God, and not a man—
the Holy One among you.
I will not come against their cities.
10 They will follow the Lord;
he will roar like a lion.
When he roars,
his children will come trembling from the west.
11 They will come from Egypt,
trembling like sparrows,
from Assyria, fluttering like doves.
I will settle them in their homes,”
declares the Lord.
~ Hosea 11 (New International Version)
This is just one of the illustrations of how much God loved and still loves Israel which was made manifest and perfect in the passion and resurrection of Jesus Christ, the love of God that surpasses all knowledge.
You cannot say you love God when you hate your partner.
God said how can you lie that you love HIM that you cannot even see when you hate your brother?
Who is fooling whom?
We cannot be smarter and wiser than God.
Where there is no forgiveness there is no happiness and there is no love
No matter how many times your partner cheats, even 1, 000 times and he or she repents 1, 000 times, you must forgive and welcome your partner back.
Forgiveness removes all bitterness and sadness of a broken heart.
But unforgiven spirit brings bitterness and and sadness that will only make you sick.
If you truly love your partner, then why do you cheat in retaliation?
The "two can play game" is only great for the foolish lovers and spouses, but not for anyone who truly loves the partner for life.
Love is for life.
The end of a relationship does not mean the end of love.
Ask many married couples and they will tell you that they still love their ex-lovers they did not marry.
Sincerely I cringe whenever I see the kind of girls a cheating husband dates behind the back of his beautiful and lovely wife.
In most cases cheating adulterous husbands date girls who are beneath their wives in beauty and class.
Like housemaids and cheap girls they can deceive, intimidate and take advantage of.
Like Arnold Schwarzenegger who destroyed his 25 years of marriage for cheating on his wife Maria Shriver, niece of President John F. Kennedy, for over fourteen years with an employee in their household, Mildred Patricia 'Patty' Baena who gave him an illegitimate son from his adultery.
Most men who cheat on their wives prefer cheap girls and women they can always control and manipulate.
Whatever problem you have that can make you cheat can be addressed and resolved before the damage is done.
Address the problem first and if you cannot solve it, then quit and don't use it as an excuse to cheat.
If you are satisfied with what you are getting in any relationship, say it aloud and clear!
Don't hide your resentment and use it as your silly reason for cheating.
IF YOU KNOW YOU ARE NOT GOING TO BE ABLE TO BE EVER FAITHFUL AND EVER TRUTHFUL TO A WOMAN, PLEASE DON'T EVEN ASK
HER TO MARRY YOU!
NEITHER LOVE NOR MARRIAGE IS BY FORCE.
Your cheating or adultery is going to make someone and others miserable, including members of your family, children if you have any, relations, friends and colleagues just because you failed to honor and respect your relationship and marriage.
Your cheating and adultery you rant that it is nobody's business sooner or later becomes everybody's business or even stinking corpse!
"My private life is none of your business!"
But the HIV/AIDS and other consequences become the business and problems of others later.
The consequences can cost fortunes and even innocent lives!
YOU CAN NEVER CHEAT ON SOMEONE YOU TRULY RESPECT.
I would rather be single and unmarried for life than marry and cheat on my wife.
I will die form the shame of adultery, because I am a very proud person!
I nearly made the only young woman I love most cry this morning for scolding her. But when she made me realize my misunderstanding, I apologized and left her happier at work.
I have dated both black and white women and beautiful women who will make many of the winners of the Most Beautiful Girl in Nigeria (MBGN) look ordinary, but I cannot let other attractive girls and women who come to me for acting and modeling jobs distract me from her. Not even for a billion dollars.
Love is priceless.
It is evil and wicked to do anything you know would hurt an innocent partner and other innocent people.
No child or children asked to be born.
It is evil and wicked to bring children into the world only to make them suffer later, because of the consequences of your cruelties and infidelities.
If you must love and you must love absolutely or don't even promise to love at all.
There are no half measures in love.
So, if you are truly willing to give your heart to someone, then you must give it wholeheartedly.
~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima, author of Children of Heaven, Scarlet Tears of London, The Language of True Love, Bye, Bye Mugabe, In the House of Dogs, Diary of the Memory Keeper, The Prophet Lied and co-author of Na-ked Beauty.
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