How Much Does Your Boyfriend Help You to Fulfill Your Dreams?

How much does your Boyfriend Help You to Fulfill Your Dreams?

Every girl needs a boyfriend?
Any girl who tells you that she does not need a boyfriend is either a liar or just ignorant of the facts of life.

How much your boyfriend helps you to fulfill your dreams matters most in your relationship, because having a boyfriend is more than having a “fork buddy” just to be forking you whenever he likes or when you like it.

Your relationship can make you or mar you for life. Therefore you must not joke with your relationship.

If I tell you that bad relationships have been responsible for the deplorable state of Nigeria, you may not be able to grasp it, but it is actually true. Because everything we have been doing so far started from our relationships from when we were in secondary schools to tertiary schools and to our respective workplaces.
If you had a very good boyfriend in secondary school, he would have done his best to make sure you excelled in your studies and passed your examinations in flying colours and boosted your morale to use your intelligence and brilliance successfully from matriculation to convocation. But if you had a bad boyfriend whose only interest in you was to use you as his sex object or sex toy and did not even care about your grades, because he liked taking advantage of your shortcomings and weaknesses, you would end up just being an average pupil and student and would have graduated without much ambition and would likely die with only the common obituary announcement naming all your survivors.. Finis.

Only a fraction of the population achieve more than that while the majority end up as Average Joes and Average Janes and if you really sit back to analyze the causes and consequences of the ills plaguing our beloved nation, you will trace them to the root causes from bad and faulty foundations from when most of us were still growing up.

How much has he helped you in your studies or work?

Can your boyfriend contribute to your project even if he knows little or nothing about your course? Or he would prefer to be bunking you when you were meant to be studying for very important exams? And instead of buying you that very important textbook, he buys you a BlackBerry, iPhone or iPad just to impress you to give more of your body than your brains?

A guy who seems very generous to you by giving you so much money and gifts, but does not show much interest in your grades or promotion at work is only fattening the sheep for the slaughter slab. I mean you are only being well fed to end up in his bed as his sex object or baby factory. This is actually what majority of Nigerian boyfriends and husbands have been doing to their Nigerian girlfriends and wives for decades.

A girlfriend who was studying law insisted that her boyfriend should help her with her research on diplomatic immunity and he did his best and she went on to have her LLB and LLM, Then he continued until she became one of the most notable young lawyers in Nigeria and he even recommended her to the International Law Office of which he is a nominating member of the Global Counsel Awards.

Another girlfriend had the cooperation and support of her boyfriend who went as far as writing one quarter of her thesis. And she put his name among those who helped her to earn her BA.

A good boyfriend will do his best for you all the way from the bedroom to the boardroom.

You can really excel and succeed in life if you have a good boyfriend and later husband and not dating a dummy.

I know that majority of Nigerian girls are dating dummies that in most cases do not have great ambitions than to earn a seven digit salary and without their salaries they will starve!

How do you know if you have a creative and productive boyfriend?
By how much he can use his skills and wits to create employment for himself and others without depending on others for his survival and welfare.
Why are over 20 million Nigerian youths jobless?
Why can’t they create jobs for themselves as millions of their fellow youths in the developed countries are doing by developing and launching many startups.

Iron sharpeneth iron and the deep calleth unto the deep says the Holy Bible. So, be wise in your choice of boyfriends and husbands.

Only a dummy will be dating or even thinking of marrying a boyfriend who cannot help you to excel and fulfill your dreams.
Many girlfriends are having boyfriends who are even liabilities to their parents, guardians and others.
How can someone who cannot even take care of himself convince you that he can take care of you?

Boyfriends who are neither confident nor independent once they cannot get any steady supply of cash and gifts from their parents or uncles.
Boyfriends without initiative, and who are not creative or productive.

You should challenge your boyfriends to do their best to boost your morale in the pursuit of your dreams and if they cannot prove that they are capable of doing so, please don’t waste your time on them again. Just dump the unworthy boyfriends and look for worthy ones who can help you to fulfill your dreams for your mutual benefit and to make your family, community and country proud.


~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima, December, 2011.

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