Hopeless Love As A Metaphor for Despair

Hopeless Love As A Metaphor for Despair

I have been more of a spectator of the different scenarios of the drama of life, as I watch more in amusement than bewilderment, how humans live through the existential realities of life on earth, their battle of wits and instincts to create an ideal society in the development and advancement of human civilization.

I often brood and ponder over how humans act and react in different circumstances and the influences of these circumstances form their experiences in their development in a particular environment.

The culture of nature is full of imperfections and malfunctions as human inhibitions and laws contradict the natural dispositions of their instincts.

All humans are naturally romantic and erotic creatures and respond to their stimuli for sexual pleasures as they thirst for water or want food. But the question of right and wrong causes disruptions as they continue to make corrections to balance the equations of life on earth.

Here is one of my case studies in Lagos, Nigeria.

She is hopelessly in love with an older man since she knew him when she was only six. Now she is 19 and her heart still beats faster whenever she sees him. Her parents like him and he respects them. They see him as a very disciplined and kind uncle, but she wants him to be her lover. She feels intimidated in his company as he is often surrounded by a bevy of beauties, white and black and she would feel outshined by the older women. No day passes that she does not wish to be wrapped in his arms. He has left and ignored her and she has dated boys of her age group, but she has lost interest in them and now feels guilty that she gave her virginity away to one of these boys. She wants Jimmy to love her as he would love his older women, but she is afraid of going to him without what he advised her to preserve till marriage. At 18, she was still a virgin and offered herself to him and thought he would be anxious and curious to deflower her, but he politely declined and did not even embrace or kiss her. She could not believe he would reject her. She has tried to ignore him and forget him, but she has failed. She does not hide anything from him, she gave him access to her only e-mail account, just to show him how honest, and transparent she is. Her parents know she loves him, but they are afraid that he will not marry her even though he has not married any of his numerous female companions who cannot stop loving him. They pray their daughter to find a suitable suitor and get over her passion for Jimmy, but she knows they can never stop the festering thoughts of her unfulfilled love for the only man who makes her feel the depth of her being.


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Hygiene and Romance With Campus Babes and others Who Share Compound Toilets

Hygiene and Romance With Campus Babes and others Who Share Compound Toilets

When you see these campus girls and younger women living in the hostels on campus in Nigerian colleges or universities, you would be fooled by their dazzling looks and chic fashion and before you know it, you would have been hooked at first sight. But please, before you rush her into bed, think twice.

When you visited her on campus, did you see the toilet?
Did you know how many of them are sharing the toilet?
Were you able to breathe well while passing by the toilet?

Most girls and women have the habit of hiding their infections and medical history from their boyfriends and suitors until they have lured and seduced them into relationships.
How evil and wicked they could be?

Now, visit the toilets in the male hostels?
These same boys and young men are often the regular lovers of the same girls and young women on campus.
Please, inspect their toilets, because the toilets in the female hostels are not cleaner than the toilets in the male hostels.

The same campus guys who can sleep with anything in skirts and pants in their careless and reckless lust for sex will be seen posing and posturing to be cool while contracting and infecting their campus girlfriends with STDs and even AIDS.

Many campus guys sleep with prostitutes in town and return to also sleep with their campus girlfriends and then campus girlfriends will sleep with their senior boyfriends, big boys, Aristos or Sugar Daddies and these careless and reckless men will now go and sleep with their senior babes, mistresses or wives and the vicious circle of sexual epidemic continues.

Then finally, inspect the toilets of the girls and young women living in tenements in the town or city before rushing to dip your careless and reckless Long John into the vagina.


Yes, Mr. Romantic, before you kiss her hand or foot, think twice or even thrice, about the hygiene.

Does she wash her hands and feet after urinating?
Does she use her hands to wipe sweat off her face and clean her nose?
The same hands you rush to kiss in your careless and reckless lust for sex.

What does she do with those her hands behind your back when you are not looking?

Hygiene is necessary before dating anyone.

The cleanliness and sanitation of the residence, must be confirmed before you rush into bed

Being dirty and filthy shows the true character of your personality.

Lagos is dirty, because Lagosians are dirty.
Kano is very dirty, because the residents are very dirty.
Aba is dirty, because the residents are quite dirty and filthy.

The Nigerian writer, Dilibe Onyemma said that he would politely reject fellow Nigerians from renting his apartments in the UK, because of their well-known dirty and filthy habits.

The UN is so concerned that there is a global campaign for the promotion of sanitation in schools worldwide to prevent the spread of common infections through sharing toilets.

It is natural for most people to hide the truth and continue using dirty and filthy toilets.

Students on campus can join hands and put their heads together to start the general sanitation of their bedrooms and toilets.

I know a student in Moremi Hall at the University of Lagos who mobilized her roommates and they made sure their toilet was clean and safe for daily use.

There is a finishing school on Isaac John Street in Ikeja, Lagos, for the grooming of young girls and young women on hygiene and etiquette.