You Need Humility To Date Nigerians in Nigeria: From the Diary of a Traveling Nigerian Writer
There is a glaring difference between Nigerian girls and women in Nigeria and Nigerian girls and women in developed countries, because those in developed countries are more advanced than those in Nigeria in information, education and communication (IEC) and standards of living. And the appalling poor quality of education in Nigeria is worsening the intellectual development of Nigerians in Nigeria.
Communicating with Nigerians who even boast of being graduates of Nigerian universities is a nightmare when addressing intellectual and political matters of local and global significance. For instance, majority of Nigerian girls in Nigeria who claim to be educated and informed with their latest gadgets and toys of BBM and other trendy mobile devices were clueless about the popular discussions on Chinua Achebe’s controversial memoir There Was A Country and how the issues raised matter in the history of Nigeria. Majority of these BlackBerry babes don’t even read newspapers, except gossip tabloids online and offline on celebrities and their lifestyles and scandals. In fact, even the so called trendy ones who are often seen posing and posturing on the red carpets in Nigeria and claiming to wear the top designers clothes, shoes and other accessories don’t even know the difference between Spring and Fall collections of the designers they drop their names in their fake impressions of Hollywood celebrities they see on cable TV and on the internet.
Having a healthy cerebral conversation with anyone of them is almost impossible and among them are graduates of top Nigerian universities and you can be really flummoxed by their vacuity. So, what do you do with these milling hordes of intellectually retarded Nigerian babes on the street and on the internet whose best contributions to Facebook is posting their useless photographs to solicit for the attention of their romantic interests and targets?
The best thing to do in most cases is to skip all intellectual matters on serious literary and sociopolitical issues and indulge in their trivialities and play along to dine and wine and fork them as they wish and when they have nothing more to offer than their junk life, just dump them when you are bored and tired of them and move on to those you can really have a more fulfilling relationship with, because with these intellectually retarded Nigerian girls and women, you can never be at par with your intellectual peers in the developed countries. They are just too intellectually backward to comprehend the trending contemporary issues and how they will determine our future on earth. That is why majority of them have been caught napping by the notable paradigms in both pop culture and political developments in the world.
How many of them knew about the Orange Revolution in Eastern Europe or how climate change is also worsening the volatile political crisis in the north that has done collateral damage to peace and stability in Nigeria and affects the welfare of everyone in Nigeria? What they all shout is Boko Haram! But how many of them can sit down with you and discuss the direct or indirect relationship between the Islamic terrorism in northern Nigeria and the spread of the Al-Qaeda in the Islamic Maghreb (AQIM)? But now the horrifying and terrifying acts of the Boko Haram have disrupted the formal and normal life of many of them who would have been doing their National Youth Service Corps (NYSC), working and dating in the northern and Middle Belt states?
Majority of them who have fled the conflict zones have chosen defeatist and escapist ways of life instead of addressing the present realities in Nigeria.
They have ignorant and nonchalant attitudes and they have only made themselves more insecure in sociopolitical emergencies. And they still want to be counted among the future leaders of this country when they are so clueless about the local and global indicators of political developments in the 21st century?
When a community loses the appreciation of intellectual values it will gradually and eventually lose its humanity and will degenerate into a state of bestiality and incivility and that was exactly what happened in the horrifying murder of four students of the University of Port Harcourt in Umuokiri village, Aluu, Rivers State on October 5, 2012, and other tragic cases of barbaric acts in different parts of Nigeria.
To be well informed on the realities affecting our life in the present circumstances is a must in every relationship, courtship and marriage so that you will not be overwhelmed by the crisis as witnesses in the tragic case of Rwanda where their ignorance and nonchalance worsened the management of the crisis until it became one of the worst human catastrophes in history. Hundreds of thousands of lives were lost and the relationships of the survivors were altered forever.
The terrible economic and sociopolitical realities in Nigeria are affecting lives and relationships and the results are mass unemployment with millions of jobless singles who cannot even afford three square meals to think of having and maintaining relationships and those who have ended up with unplanned marriages and families are having children they cannot even give good parenting. Therefore in every relationship in Nigeria, you must address the present realities of life before marriage. I wonder how many singles are enjoying normal relationships and getting married in the Boko Haram zones of northern Nigeria? What of those who have been attacked and lost their lovers and spouses?
Have you ever paused to think of how you would survive if another civil war should break out in Nigeria?
Would you still be dancing Iyanya’s Kukere at the club or going Chuddy K’s Gaga Crazy on the street?
Can we have some reasonable dialogue on this before it is too late?
~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima, prize winning Nigerian born author of Children of Heaven, Scarlet Tears of London, Bye, Bye Mugabe, In the House of Dogs, Diary of the Memory Keeper, The Prophet Lied and other books.