Teenage Infatuations and other Assumptions of Love

Teenage Infatuations and other Assumptions of Love


She calls him her boyfriend, but he does accept her as his girlfriend. He calls another girl his girlfriend.
He assumes she is his girlfriend, but she actually belongs to another guy.

The above scenarios are quite common in relationships among teens and older people.
I see men who assume that they are having a relationship with a particular woman when she has not even agreed to go out with the man with such a fantasy.

Sleeping with someone may not be a serious relationship to him or her.
To him or her, you have simply had sex. Period. No more, no less.

Millions of teenage girls mistake infatuation for love when they exchange emotional messages online and the pictures of a pretty face suddenly make her or him to “fall in love” but it is all lust.
It is part of growing up into adulthood. But the consequences of the mistaken passions could do them more harm than good in life. Like date despoil harms the intellectual and sexual development of many impressionable teenage girls who are most vulnerable to such mistakes of infatuations.


No reasonable or sensible person should take online “fans” or “friends” you have never met or do not know their family backgrounds seriously. Many psychos are on Facebook, Twitter, Tagged, MySpace, etc.
Many are even calling ghosts their “FRIENDS”, but they should actually be FIENDS.

Nobody will come online, go to clubs or parties and tell total strangers the facts of his or her life. So, they have to tell lies after lies in conceit and deceit depending on the targets.

Humans would lie countless times to get whatever they want.
Boys would like to get girls to have sexual intercourse with them.
Girls would lie to boys and sugar daddies to get gifts and cash from them.
It’s what I call “Bargain Romance”. It is a game of guts and wits.
If you want to have fun, enjoy the game while it lasts.
Infatuations and assumptions of love are romantic fancies.

I was sitting with some guys this morning when one of them was boasting of his latest sexual conquest in detail.
He found out that a hood queen was easy to lay and even explained that he had to use some Vaseline lotion to lubricate her womanliness before penetrating her and that she now begged him not to tell a particular guy he knew. I mean not to “kiss and tell”. Only cheats are scared of “kiss and tell”.

A popular celebrity columnist in Nigeria told a young guy that she would have agreed to sleep with him, but she was afraid that he would kiss and tell. This guy would definitely kiss and tell. The fact is this guy believes that sleeping with a woman he fancied is not a big deal and does not amount to any pact of secrecy. A typical Lagos boy who loves to “fork and talk”. Many of the girls he has slept with call him “my boyfriend”, but he simply calls each one, “the girl I have forked” and says he does not have any girlfriend.

A very pretty and sexy girl on Victoria Island in Lagos does not deny the fact that she is a nymphomaniac. She is addicted to sex and a case that would make a girl in America or Europe go to a rehab for psychotherapy, but in Nigeria she is not really bothered. She sleeps with any guy she desires and LOVE has nothing to do with it. But many guys who have slept with her and called her “my girlfriend” later found out the unclothed truth. She is single and free and as we say in local parlance ‘she no send o!”. She loves sex like food and having sex to her is like answering the call of nature. It’s not a big deal and does not use it as a meal ticket like many girls in Nigeria.

Mature and secure men and women know when and how to separate the fact from the fiction.
Saying “I love you” 10,000 times may not end up in true love, because in most cases, that “I love you” is coming from either your sweet tooth or stomach and not from your heart.

A young woman received a bag of packets of chocolates and cookies from an older man and excitedly she called him and said “I love you”. But the “I love you” was only coming from her sweet tooth. He chuckled, because he knew the truth, but simply played along to make her happy.
Another young man thought she was having a relationship with a guy and actually thought she was his one and only true partner, but was surprised when they broke up and his “in relationship” status remained unchanged. The fact is, he was having a real relationship with another woman and not her.

It would be better, healthier and safer to define your intents and purposes when relating with the opposite gender and avoid living in Fool’s Paradise. One swallow does not make a summer.